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Paint the Picture You Wish to Admire

Dear Lovely Lady,

I hope you had a wonderful day today full of good fortune and new opportunities. I had quite the wonderful day myself. On a sliding scale, I would have to say it was even above average. The only thing currently affecting my mood is my slowly dwindling battery life and my lack of motivation to find an outlet.

Today got me thinking that a lot of the issues we face are all made in our heads. I remember once confiding in a friend of mine that I no longer understood who I was. I had become someone I could only barely recognize as a manufactured persona fit to serve the status quo with prerecorded answers to questions like what's your favorite food and where do you want to travel to.

I wanted to be the daughter my parents could be proud of, the student her peers could look up to, a reliable friend to those around me. I'd started making decisions and life choices that would make everyone else happy without asking myself what would make me happy.

I started to doubt the fundamentals of my personality. I questioned my faith, my desires, my preferences down to the shade of my favorite color. Darkness took over me and I began to wonder if I had been lying to myself all this time. I felt restricted, and my mind palace could no longer hold me. The world looked duller than usual. Until I realized none of it mattered.



The beauty of it all is that the world is a work of art, and we're it's painters. We get to decide what we want to admire. Whether that be it's darkness or it's light. I hope you decide to join me in praising it's brightness and only appreciating it's contrast from afar.


Sincerely yours,

The Refined Lady

P.S. Don't forget to join us at our prime slice of heaven on Instagram @aladyrefined




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