A Harsh Lesson: The One You Didn't Want to Hear

Dear Lovely Ladies,

As I was going through my notes in my notes app, I found something that caught my fancy. For my sake and for anyone that's feeling alone, I thought I would share an unfinished excerpt.

"You will graduate from college in 3 years, get your dream job and leave it. Your grades won't matter and you'll feel aimless. You'll realize that money nor material items or status matter. You'll no longer tolerate doing things for the sake of appearances.

You'll realize that those "friends" of yours are completely circumstantial and that the decisions you make impact your future more than you care to believe.

Ultimately, you'll come face to face with all of the questions you've been pushing to the back of your mind because you're no longer juggling two jobs and attending school full time so nothing can block your questions from rising to the surface.

Most importantly, you'll learn that the only vessel you have in this life is the only thing you're guaranteed, aside from death, so you must take care of it. Oh, and you will. All the while wishing you'd done it sooner."

It's obvious that I wasn't feeling quite myself, and not many people knew about it. A mask never breaks just because it's owner crumbles beneath it. I was lucky to be able to see the light at the end of the darkened tunnel, but that doesn't mean a person can't have their temporary lapses. The best thing in that situation is to find people who sincerely care about you and surround yourself in their warmth.

Sincerely Yours,

The Refined Lady

P.S. Nothing is more of a wake up call than an existential crisis, consider me awake.

Comments

A Real Friend Never Forgets

Dear Lovely Ladies, Sometimes I ask myself where all the time has gone. I stand there mortified at the number of hours I've spent investing my precious resources into people that are no longer at my side. I feel foolish knowing that I cared so much only to let them use me and forget me. There may be a few ounces of pride in my body that don't allow me to reach out to those I used to consider my dearest friends. However, knowing that fact doesn't change my decision to stay away. I've managed to keep two close friends after college and even they appear to be getting farther and farther away from me, like bottles out at sea. Both of them are off on travels at the moment and I'm left here wondering where I went wrong. A real friend never forgets your existence. They don't go days without checking in on you to see if you're okay. I say this because I think it's mature to reflect, to see what kind of friend we've become. After a while tho...

A Letter from a Dear Friend

Dear Lovely Lady, If you have ever wondered what the world would be like if you could be the best version of yourself, it’s time for you to stop wondering. Ask yourself, what would she do if she were in your shoes? I’m talking about the best version of you. When you’re faced with a choice ask yourself this question and honor her decision. In this manner, you will slowly become her, that best version of you, and you will know what it finally feels like to become that person you’ve always wanted to be. XOXO, The Refined Lady P.S. Don't forget to come back! I look forward to getting to hear from all of you. Cheers!

Choice is the Spice of Life

Dear Lovely Lady, It's that time of the day again. Time for the evening check lists to come out and for work to go to bed. For a long time I always considered my evenings to be a time of escaping reality. No responsibilities and no pressure for deadlines. Procrastination was number one on the agenda, but recently I've had quite the change of heart. Every minute of our day we make a choice, down to the second. I think I've heard it called the butterfly effect, but it's more than just a work of fiction. Every choice we make is another building block to our not so distant future. From the people we associate with, to the route we take to work. We choose what we want for our future, as improbable as that might sound. So acknowledge your power. Let it be your decision. Indeed, always remember, your choices are the spice you add to life. Sincerely yours, The Refined Lady

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