A Harsh Lesson: The One You Didn't Want to Hear

Dear Lovely Ladies,

As I was going through my notes in my notes app, I found something that caught my fancy. For my sake and for anyone that's feeling alone, I thought I would share an unfinished excerpt.

"You will graduate from college in 3 years, get your dream job and leave it. Your grades won't matter and you'll feel aimless. You'll realize that money nor material items or status matter. You'll no longer tolerate doing things for the sake of appearances.

You'll realize that those "friends" of yours are completely circumstantial and that the decisions you make impact your future more than you care to believe.

Ultimately, you'll come face to face with all of the questions you've been pushing to the back of your mind because you're no longer juggling two jobs and attending school full time so nothing can block your questions from rising to the surface.

Most importantly, you'll learn that the only vessel you have in this life is the only thing you're guaranteed, aside from death, so you must take care of it. Oh, and you will. All the while wishing you'd done it sooner."

It's obvious that I wasn't feeling quite myself, and not many people knew about it. A mask never breaks just because it's owner crumbles beneath it. I was lucky to be able to see the light at the end of the darkened tunnel, but that doesn't mean a person can't have their temporary lapses. The best thing in that situation is to find people who sincerely care about you and surround yourself in their warmth.

Sincerely Yours,

The Refined Lady

P.S. Nothing is more of a wake up call than an existential crisis, consider me awake.

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